The beginning of leadership for powerful feminine women

Only when you belong to  yourself can you feel that you belong to the Divine.  Belonging happens when transparency and trust catalyze,  like twin flame souls reuniting after long eons of searching for each other.  A deep release happens,  all the sadness, the longing, the not good enough, the secret fear that you are the only damaged one, falls away.  

Everyone wants to belong.  We want to belong at such a deep visceral  level that when we’ve experienced it and lost it,  a piece of our soul breaks away.  Whether you believe in God or Jesus or “nothing at all”  there’s still an impulse, a longing to feel connected to something greater than.  It truly is hardwired into humans.

Not belonging, being the outsider, you are invisible.  Not acknowledged,  not seen.  In the movie Avatar,  the greeting given  is I SEE YOU.           A profound gift to be sure.  In my work as a coach and healer, I’m always struck by what people will do be seen.  To what lengths they will go to have someone truly see them.  And it’s this deep need, to no longer be invisible,   that drives belonging.

I’m not talking about just being invisible to others, but about all the ways that we are invisible to  ourselves.  The places we don’t  acknowledge, accept, own, rejoice in.          Like the principle of homeopathy,  naming the limitation cures it.  Once you truly allow all of yourself to belong to you,  the cage opens and you’re free.  You are at home with  yourself and right with  God.  

Jay Michaelson wrote  “There’s no path to liberation that doesn’t pass through the shadow.”    

We create so many reasons in our mind about why we can’t and don’t belong and never will.  

Reasons to justify  the hurt and the anguish that feels like an  open wound that you keep accidentally hitting.   Reasons to give more juice to the electric fence of  limitations.     Other people might not like us.  We’ll be free but alone.   Releasing limitations means we  (again) won’t belong.   We instinctively know that liberation means an end to  things as we know it, that it  really is the “end of the world as we know it”.   Melissa Etheridge said it this way:

I can feel the thunder underneath my feet

When I sold my soul for freedom.

It’s lonely but it’s sweet.

Liberation comes calling at the appointed time.   Much like the birth of  a child or the timing of a funeral,   your appointment with liberation can be delayed but never cancelled.  You either take the meeting or you leave this life and begin again.  “ There is nothing a man can do to liberate himself if his time of divine liberation has not come. But when the time comes, nothing can stop it.”   

These are the elements of feminine leadership, the beginning.  Liberation and freedom meeting to create powerful, intuitive, feminine leadership.